SHOE-GETS-SIZE SYNDROME

There is this assertion in romance circles that shoe gets size- which means that as a woman with a high taste the level I have reached demands that only man of this and that category/rank should tread my shores and any man below so and so level should never try to come closer. This ‘shoe-gets-size’ perception could emanate from adjudged level of sophistication, education, elegance, job attainment and so on.

Hence, what usually happens is that a lot of girls/ladies would never consider marriage from any person who is below that status set and kept. However, when it is God in the lead, all that illusion will disappear completely. Only God can help you choose the man who will stay, pity you and stand by you as an enduring husband. One of the greatest reasons why most girls/ladies do not ever get their desired husband is because they set (idols in their hearts) their targets so high and would only turn their eyes back if they adjudge the man who has called to be their “size”.

The question now is, “who is your marital size?” You may define that size but God whose thoughts are not our thoughts and whose ways are different from our ways will not consider what we consider (Isaiah 55:8).

   How many times have young girls/ladies rejected marriage proposals from persons they considered not up to standard only to marry devils or even marry a man who will die prematurely and leave them as widows at an early age? I have an example near me here and from there I learn many lessons. Many ladies after rejecting, rejecting, and rejecting, looking for Mr. Right, ten years later, that same lady will come to accept people who are lower in grade than men they rejected ten years ago, who of course by now have grown and “multiplied”.

   Shoe gets size. Yes! But take time with this as you consider that request from Mr. Starter. It can happen that by tomorrow that person climbs to the top of the ladder and you begin to say had I known I would have acted differently. These days, as always the young are growing!

   How many have rejected marriage proposals today only to regret tomorrow. The result is that we keep having lots of girls/ladies who are not married. But for space, I would have given you instances that some lovely ladies stuck to this theory of shoe gets size only to regret at the end.

   There was this case of a lady (graduate) working in one of the prominent companies in town earning a fat sum of money. She had been praying for a husband, and then came one day, a Christian brother who approached her for marriage. The young man left and there was a battle going on within this lady for days. She had sleepless nights with thoughts flowing in aimlessly.

Behold! There is always that Divine instinct in every person which is usually too sharp when the right thing clicks. It is either you neglect it, or kill it with the phrase, “shoe gets size”.

    Well this lady after much struggling within herself for days decided to accept this man, and marriage was consummated and consequently they were doing exceedingly well. The question once again is, “who is your marital size?”